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Every now and again, we are bound to go through times that make us question everything we know to be and everything we know we are. They may be the result of a major-life change. They may be due to a tragic loss. They could exist during stressful moments. They could be caused by a hormone imbalance. Regardless, no matter how dark the days seem, there is bound to be light at the end of the tunnel.
In order to endure through these difficult and often depressing periods, one must hold tight to a very special thing: a happy place.
According to Urban Dictionary, a happy place is “The mental state achieved when one wants to avoid the unpleasant or uncomfortable. Everyone’s happy place is different, and usually consists of the things that make them joyous.” It’s what gives us the “warm fuzzies” when we are feeling blue.
Do you know where yours is?
How many times have we turned to music to distract ourselves from our lives?
I know that I have a time or two. There is a playlist for sad times and happy times, working tunes and mellows songs. Every genre is covered and it’s awesome that there are so many vices for each and every emotion that can come across our minds and our stereos.
Normally, I refrain from bringing my iPod into the office, but this week I have relied on the melodies to keep me grounded when I can no longer bear the reality that presents itself before me. It is difficult to ignore the facts, but I have found my refuge. There have been sad songs and happy songs, songs that I can sing along to and songs that I can dance to. But most importantly, each of these songs allow me to escape the truth for the duration of the tune.
And I know I’m not the only one who needs this escape.
Sometimes, I find myself dwelling on the negatives in my life and all the things I wish were different. It can be easy to get wrapped up in imagining your life forever changed if just this or that were different. I’m sure I would be happier if I earned more money. I think I would find my soul mate if I lost a few pounds. My life would begin if I got the chance to start over someplace new. These are the kinds of thoughts that eat away at the very core of your happiness.
I’ve been noticing lately that my posts have been on the down side. I did not create this blog to wax on about every little thing that bothers me or how mopey I feel, especially because I’m a pretty happy person 99% of the time. Those aren’t the kind of words I like to read, so why on earth have I been writing them?
I hope those of you who had a long holiday weekend enjoyed wonderful days filled with laughter and great people. I know I did.
You can’t beat finding the perfect piece of art for an empty room or laughing with family while soaking up the sun at the beach or getting some much-needed deep-cleaning done throughout your home. A truly happy weekend prepared me for the start of September, the busiest time of year in my office. Though I’m not looking forward to the weekends spent at work or parties I will miss because I have to wake up early for status meetings the next day, I feel ready for this month.
That is, ready for it to be over.
I used to love the ninth month of the year. It symbolized new beginnings, the arrival of cooler temperatures, and the return of favorite TV shows. Now, September means heightened stress levels, tension among co-workers, a blackout on vacation time, and an increase in the consumption of crappy foods over the next thirty days. Add all that to my organization going through a poorly planned merger and the departure of many co-workers and you can understand why I can’t wait to see the harvest festivities of October.
Sobbing. Boo-hooing. Bawling. Weeping. Bursting into tears. Blubbering. Wailing. There are so many names for the act of salty drops of fluid flowing from one’s eyes as a response to an emotional state.
Crying has many monikers and is the result of a plethora of different feelings. Some are sad, others happy. Sometimes the result of a delirious state following a sleepless night with a sick baby. Other times the reaction to the pain dropping a television on one’s bare foot or the relief that a loved one is safe. Tears can form in times of stress, happiness, anger, hopelessness, excitement, panic, grief, frustration, loneliness, hilarity, pride, and about a thousand other emotions.
Your nose starts getting stuffed and then turns runny as your sinuses sense that something is about to be unleashed. A lump forms in your throat as big as the jaw breaker you once tried to devour when you were six. Eyes start to stare at objects in a fruitless attempt to ward off the excess moisture that is suddenly threatening to spill out over your lashes. The muscles in your face tighten in order for your face to keep its composure.
And then you lose it. (more…)