Every now and again, we are bound to go through times that make us question everything we know to be and everything we know we are. They may be the result of a major-life change. They may be due to a tragic loss. They could exist during stressful moments. They could be caused by a hormone imbalance. Regardless, no matter how dark the days seem, there is bound to be light at the end of the tunnel.
In order to endure through these difficult and often depressing periods, one must hold tight to a very special thing: a happy place.
According to Urban Dictionary, a happy place is “The mental state achieved when one wants to avoid the unpleasant or uncomfortable. Everyone’s happy place is different, and usually consists of the things that make them joyous.” It’s what gives us the “warm fuzzies” when we are feeling blue.
Do you know where yours is?
A happy place shouldn’t be too hard to find. Everyone knows what makes them happy, right? Well, that’s your happy place. For me, it’s hanging out with my niece and nephews, dance parties in my apartment, getting the excited, tail-wagging welcome from Jake when I come to visit, watching It’s Complicated (no matter how many times I see it, it still cracks me up), or indulging in a nice
bottle glass of wine. Your happy place is like a tropical vacation while you’re sitting in your cubicle. It’s your own private oasis.
Unfortunately, it can be pretty easily lost too. There was a time when I couldn’t find my happy place and my whole world was turned upside down.
Last year, I suffered what I consider my own personal breakdown. Right around my 27th birthday, I became irrationally sad and negative about everything. I was crying at the drop of a hat, the smallest things upset me, and I had to take a day off of work to “collect myself” after I spent my entire birthday rushing back and forth to the restrooms to avoid crying at my desk. I was a complete mess and felt like I would never laugh again. The worst part of my inconsolable despair, I knew I was being completely ridiculous and there wasn’t anything anyone could say to help me. I was fully aware that my emotions were all over the place, but I felt weak because of my inability to control them.
Luckily, it was determined by my doctor only a week later that my hormones were to blame. She changed my medication and I was back to feeling like my ol’ cheerful self in no time flat. I was once again dancing and cracking jokes. The world did not seem like it was against me and shrouded in dark clouds. I had found my way back to my happy place.
Now I know finding one’s happy place is not always as easy as changing a prescription, but there are things you can do in the event that you find yourself in place of misery.
- Watch hilarious videos online.
- Talk it out.
- Eat your favorite comfort food.
- Tap into your memory bank of good times.
- Exercise to get the serotonin pumping.
- Dance like Tom Jones.
- Drink copious amounts of alcoholic beverages.
Okay, I’m just kidding about that last one, but you get the picture. Dark days are normal and sometimes it’s hard to snap out of the funk. Don’t beat yourself up over them. You can force yourself back to your happy place with silliness and laughter or you can take your time. It can be beneficial to ride out the misery like a wave in the ocean.
Eventually it’ll break and you’ll find that happy place once again.