Have you ever had a time in your life that everything was just coming up roses? A span of time that makes you want to buy a lottery ticket because you are sure you’ll win since everything else in your world is going according to plan? Did that every scare the crap out of you? If everything is going so right, something must inevitably crash and burn right before your very eyes to bring you back to the harsh, cruel light of reality. But what if it doesn’t? What if you choose not to worry about it? What if you just savor the moment as if it were a decadent piece of chocolate melting on your tongue?
To give you all a little insight, my 2013 has been going exceptionally well for being only a quarter of the way through the year. I was chosen for a promotion at work in the midst of a hiring freeze, I started dating a man I’m actually really excited about, and I’m still the favorite auntie to my four munchkins. Without getting too sappy or boastful, I am incredibly happy with the place I am in life and am not freaking out about anything—quite unusual for me. And I’ve got to say, it feels really good to just be.
I overheard my boyfriend say to someone the other day, “I’m dating this wonderful girl and I’m just waiting for her to pull the rug out from under me.” He was kidding and just saying it to bust my chops, but it got me thinking: with everything going so wonderfully, what’s the catch?
Sure, I got a promotion in a time when employee furloughs are being discussed as a means to fix the country’s financial problems. Yes, I’m in a great relationship with someone who has known me for ten years (talk about a strong foundation!) and who lives 500 miles away. I could spend hours of my life finding out how each piece of the puzzle fits together, but for once, I’m not concerning myself with trying to figure it all out. Maybe things are just supposed to be “really good” for no other reason than “really good” feels really awesome.
The thing is, dwelling on what could go wrong and worrying about what the future holds really robs a person of the present. A man can get wrapped up in everything he has yet to accomplish in his life or a woman can stress about ever meeting a suitable mate to have a family with. These people can be so consumed with “what if?” that they don’t stop to pay attention to “what is.” If you’re constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, you could be missing the cha-cha that everyone else is dancing to.
Maybe it’s all the inspiring quotes I’ve been finding on Pinterest, but there certainly is something to be said about being present and living in the moment. Six months ago, I never would have believed that I could be so la-di-da about my life. I’ve always been the one who likes to have a plan and know exactly where I’m headed at any given point. I would have been horrified at the thought of “going with the flow” and taking things day-by-day, but I would have missed out on the freedom that comes with an unknown future.
There will always be mental planning and wondering, but I’m trying not to let it distract me from the here and now. I’m allowing myself to savor the moments and just be excited about them without the anxiety that often surrounds the unknown. Focusing on the now is where it’s at.
After all, tomorrow is not a guarantee.