Let Me Hear You Roar!

Vintage Fighters

After schoolyard episodes of shouting and name-calling, often resulting in pulled hair and bloody noses, we have been taught not to fight. We should work out our issues with other people with our words and not our fists. Sure, it’s a great sentiment to use non-violent ways to defend ourselves, but what happens when we stop fighting altogether?

Plain and simple: we lose.

History shows us that fighting is what humans do. We have won wars, abolished social injustices, and overcome cancer because we believed we could and we fought like hell to make it happen. Even if we utilize the Gandhi-like nonviolent tactics of protests, boycotts, and sit-ins, nothing was every won by doing nothing. Look at Rosa Parks. Had she not refused to give up her seat on the bus, the Civil Rights Movement may not have begun when it did. It could have taken another fifty years before segregation ended.

That’s the thing about fighting… it is not always negative. And now a word from Katy Perry.

Greatness can result from a good battle. Now, the average person might never become the catalyst for a civil rights movement, but fighting for what you believe in could make a huge difference to you or someone you know.

Once upon a time, I worked in retail as a customer service manager. It was a thankless job and I am grateful everyday for resigning from that position. One day, I was working the service desk and was met by a man who wanted to exchange a brand new item. Unfortunately, his receipt had expired and I was unable to process the return. He was understandably upset, but I was not prepared for the verbal attack of a raised voice and profanities launched in my direction.

Like a kid being scolded by her parent, I just stood there and took it. I didn’t defend myself or demand to be treated with respect. With my name badge and uniform of corporate colors, I didn’t think I had the right to be assertive.

Luckily, another employee stepped in.

Even though I was his supervisor and should have been able to handle the situation on my own, he confronted this rude customer and demanded that I be spoken to in a respectful manner or it would be his pleasure to escort him from the store. To this day, I am so grateful that he came to my defense when I didn’t feel like I could defend myself. The next time a customer took their anger out on me, I was strong enough to stand up for myself.

A small fight is not the end of the world. It may feel that way at the time, especially if you don’t defend yourself or what you believe in, but in time, it will only be a blip in the history of your life. The times you stand your ground when something is important to you are going to give you the foundation you need to be a stronger person. You’ll never regret fighting for what you believe in, but you will regret not fighting for it.

It takes practice, but fighting for yourself is worth it. If you don’t stand your ground, you risk becoming a shell of the person you are, let alone the person you could be. So, release that battle cry, put your dukes up, and stand your ground. It is better to go down fighting than wish you had gotten into the ring.

Copyright: Warner Bros.

Copyright: Warner Bros.

Because in the end, if you don’t fight for yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to.

8 thoughts on “Let Me Hear You Roar!

  1. filbio says:

    It’s always smart to walk away from a fight, but sometimes you do have stand up for yourself. I grew up in an era when our parents did not raise wussies, and taught us how to defend ourselves. Nowadays, most parents and their children are soft. It’s all about “time outs” and such,

    Problem is, in this day and age you never know when some nut job will take the fight to the next level and come back with a gun!

    • Jessica says:

      You are absolutely correct, Phil. Walking away is a smart choice, but we definitely need to defend ourselves when need be. More people need to be taught to stand their ground and stay strong.

  2. hunting for bliss says:

    It is so hard for me to stand up for myself…but I am getting better at it. I always regret the times when I should have and didn’t defend myself, when I let myself get bullied. I had a Horrible boss back in the day who would bully me all the time. Just before I quit, I talked with my counselor and she advised me to take a stand. I took her advice, and even though I was shaking and sweaty as I told him my mind, I’m so happy that I did it.

    • Jessica says:

      I love hearing stories of people overcoming fear to do what they need to do! For what it’s worth, I’m really proud that you were able to do that, Tobi. It takes a lot of courage to stand up for yourself and I’m so happy you did. I’ve definitely been sweaty and shaky when I’ve done something I knew I needed to do (my last breakup comes to mind), but I’ve never once regretted speaking my mind. Kudos! xoxo

  3. mikemajor9 says:

    “You’ll never regret fighting for what you believe in, but you will regret not fighting for it.” — Hear, hear! It’s so true. A little part of you dies every time you compromise your principles. Until finally one day you wake up and don’t even recognize yourself. Its losing all the little battles along the way, those little moments where you don’t stand up for yourself or don’t do the right thing, that end up losing you the war.

    • Jessica says:

      Right you are, Mike! I can’t tell you how many times I lost a piece of myself when I didn’t fight for myself. Eventually, you either learn to stand your ground or you lose yourself completely. I choose to stand my ground. 🙂

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