The Cotton Anniversary And A New Year

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Welcome to 2014, Wonderlings!

Yesterday, while I desperately wanted to post, my eyelids became heavy with sleep and I tuckered out, awaking on the couch in a new year before the sun had even risen.  You may wonder why I was so eager to post last night.  Yesterday was the second anniversary of Defining Wonderland.  It has been a journey in reading and writing that I have delighted in.  Belonging to the blogging community has inspired, encouraged, and fulfilled me in ways I never imagined.  Though I often want to change the name of the blog or the layout of the site, I have never once regretted my 2012 resolution to blog once per week for the entirety of the year.

Even after two years, I feel like I've just started.

Even after two years, I feel like I’ve just started.

It’s hard to believe that 2013 is over with everything I have experienced 365 days ago.  A year ago, I was certain that 2013 would be a great year.  I was right.  I found love and I loved myself enough to let it go.  Though I didn’t vacation outside of the country as I had wanted, I explored some great places in California (here, here, and here) and returned to a place I had long since traveled to see family I hadn’t seen in over a decade.  In 2014, I am happy to inform you that I will for sure be using my new passport: I am going to Costa Rica.  Karen and I will be taking our first international trip together on an 11-day adventure that will allow us to zip-line, hike a volcano, and visit a butterfly farm.  It’s a trip that I cannot wait for and June seems like so far away.

While some of my resolutions were not kept (a healthy food every day and tracking all diet and exercise), I was able to keep the others.  I found that by alternating between a fiction and non-fiction book, I learned more about the human condition.  Some of the great non-fiction books I poured through this year were

  • Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking,
  • Twyla Tharp’s The Creative Habit,
  • Sally Koslow’s Slouching Toward Adulthood, and
  • Jacob Tomsky’s Heads in Beds.

In addition to my literary resolution, I also managed to keep my stalking at bay.  For an entire year, I managed to avoid looking up any ex-boyfriends or guys I’ve dated on the internet.  And you know what?  I felt a certain sense of freedom.  It’s easy to dwell on hurt feelings and obsess over new girlfriends when you’re constantly checking Facebook pages, but I found that by not doing that, it was of no consequence.  Sure, I wish them all well—even the assholes— but things didn’t work out for a reason and there is no point in constantly inquiring about how a person, who is no longer a part of your life, is doing.  Keep good thoughts, but keep the stalking in check.

This year’s resolutions are a bit of the same and a bit different.

I will again be keeping to my once-a-week post so you all don’t think I’ve abandoned you.  As much as I enjoyed all the busy-ness that 2013 brought me, I missed writing.  Also, I will be doing something that has me a bit intimidated.  In October, I ran my first 5K (The Color Run) and training did wonders for keeping me in shape.  So this year, I’ve decided to run a 5K every single month.  I’m already signed up for one next Saturday and I have a plan for the rest of the year.  This resolution, I am not ashamed to say, intimidates me.  I am not a runner, but darn it if I will give it a good try this year.  My brother and sister-in-law have picked up running and they are in such wonderful shape.  It’s inspiring even if I’ve never considered myself athletic.  Wish me luck, Wonderlings!

In celebration of reaching the cotton anniversary and yet another year of Defining Wonderland, I have a little treat for you all.  A giveaway!

Live in WonderI found this little gem months ago on a very emotional summer day.  The family dog had passed away at the age of eleven after a long illness and I became certain that the relationship I was in was not the relationship I needed it to be.  Nevertheless, I discovered this book of quotations and writing prompts at a unique little New Age store on a day when I just needed to be alone with my thoughts and my tears.  I bought two: one to keep for myself and one to give away to a Wonderling.  The winner will receive a few other goodies as well.

To enter, please comment about what you are most looking forward to about 2014.  I am eager to hear what everyone else is excited about it the coming year.  I’ll announce the winner in a week or so… you’ll just have to keep reading.  You can earn one extra entry if you like the Defining Wonderland Facebook page.  Just be sure to let me know if you have.

Let 2014 be freakin’ fabulous!

20 thoughts on “The Cotton Anniversary And A New Year

  1. The Regular Guy NYC says:

    Happy New Year and here’s to a safe and healthy 2014!

    Looking forward to another fun year of blogging and reading soem great blogs out there. Good luck on the resolutions.

  2. therunningtherapist says:

    I’m looking forward to all the new possibilities in 2014, seeking a new job to be passionate about, a license in my profession, a better marathon finish, and many new running challenges as well as blogging more often. Good luck with your goals! Happy 2014!

  3. Ashley says:

    Happy new year! I have been pretty silent lately as far as blogging and commenting, but I’m still here and still reading.

    After just going through a very difficult breakup right before the holidays, and although it’s a simple resolution, I’m looking forward to just focusing on improving myself in 2014 without having to worry about anyone else. I haven’t focused on myself in a really long time.

    I also liked your facebook page. =)

    • Jessica says:

      Oh, Ashley. I’m so sorry to hear about your breakup. I know just how hard that can be, but trust that time will heal the heartbreak.

      That is a great resolution! There is nothing wrong with wanting to focus on yourself. I hope you find peace and happiness in 2014 and always remember, you are great just as you are. xoxo

  4. Caitlin | The Siren's Tale says:

    I am most looking forward to learning new interests in 2014! For the first time since 2003, I am no longer a college or graduate student, so I feel like I have endless amounts to look forward to. I’m most excited to learn canning, get back into pottery, and open an Etsy shop!

    I also like you on Facebook under my blog page – The Siren’s Tale =)

  5. Karin says:

    Happy Anniversary!!!! Glad to connect on FB! 🙂 I’m looking forward to more, more, more writing this year…and cuddling more with my kiddos, reading more, and living in the moment! 🙂

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