Happy Marks The Spot

Every now and again, we are bound to go through times that make us question everything we know to be and everything we know we are.  They may be the result of a major-life change.  They may be due to a tragic loss.  They could exist during stressful moments.  They could be caused by a hormone imbalance.  Regardless, no matter how dark the days seem, there is bound to be light at the end of the tunnel.

In order to endure through these difficult and often depressing periods, one must hold tight to a very special thing: a happy place.

According to Urban Dictionary, a happy place is “The mental state achieved when one wants to avoid the unpleasant or uncomfortable. Everyone’s happy place is different, and usually consists of the things that make them joyous.”  It’s what gives us the “warm fuzzies” when we are feeling blue.

Do you know where yours is?

Even with a compass and map, your happy place can be hard to find.

Even with a compass and map, your happy place can be hard to find.

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A New Year, A New Start

2013

Happy New Year!  Today is the first day of 2013.  Are you all excited?  Have you made your resolutions and are you ready to stick to them?  I’d love to hear about what my Wonderlings are planning on accomplishing in the New Year.

I know I talked about resolutions yesterday, but I didn’t really get into what mine are.  By now everyone should know that I started this blog last year and resolved to write a minimum of one post a week.  I achieved that goal and I am so glad I did.  Resolutions are a great way to start a habit.  It takes many attempts—I once read the magical number was 21—before a behavior/activity becomes routine and it is practically effortless from there on out.  Plus, when you tell other people, you subconsciously hold yourself more accountable than if you were to keep your resolutions private.  Now that I’ve got the blogging down, but here are the things I’m planning to work on for 2013.

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Happiness Starts With You

What makes you happy?  Are you getting enough of it?  If you’re not, why aren’t you?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the choices we make and the reasons we make them.  What I’ve discovered is that a lot—and I do mean a lot—of the decisions we make are because we are trying to make other people happy.  It makes sense.  We focus on families and loved ones because, in order to be seen as kind and selfless people, we must put their happiness above our own.  We justify it by saying things like “if they’re happy, I’m happy” or “their happiness is more important than my own.”  But is that always right?

The simple answer is no.

If we always put the needs of others before our own, we lose sight of what we need as individuals and can turn bitter and resentful.  There have been a great many times when I have witnessed or experienced the anger that comes when one’s own needs are forsaken for someone else’s.  The seed of resentment is a slow-growing emotion that once realized, is far stronger than you thought possible and incredibly hard to get rid of.  And let me tell you, it’s not pretty.

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The Satisfaction Of Crying Your Eyes Out

Sobbing. Boo-hooing. Bawling. Weeping. Bursting into tears. Blubbering. Wailing. There are so many names for the act of salty drops of fluid flowing from one’s eyes as a response to an emotional state.

You may need these.

Crying has many monikers and is the result of a plethora of different feelings. Some are sad, others happy. Sometimes the result of a delirious state following a sleepless night with a sick baby. Other times the reaction to the pain dropping a television on one’s bare foot or the relief that a loved one is safe. Tears can form in times of stress, happiness, anger, hopelessness, excitement, panic, grief, frustration, loneliness, hilarity, pride, and about a thousand other emotions.

Your nose starts getting stuffed and then turns runny as your sinuses sense that something is about to be unleashed.  A lump forms in your throat as big as the jaw breaker you once tried to devour when you were six.  Eyes start to stare at objects in a fruitless attempt to ward off the excess moisture that is suddenly threatening to spill out over your lashes.  The muscles in your face tighten in order for your face to keep its composure.

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Embrace The Fabulous

How many times have you felt like the life you lead wasn’t the life you wanted?  How many times have you let an opportunity pass because you didn’t feel good enough about yourself to take it?  How sick and tired are you of making excuses as to why your life isn’t consumed with the sparkle and shine of a thousand disco balls?

Disco may have died, but the sparkle lives on.

I’ve got three words for you: embrace the fabulous.  You heard me.  Embrace.  The.  Fabulous.

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